cream when you use "not a choice" you're just reusing old phrases from gay campaigns and people roll their eyes at it
So what the FUCK should we say you fucking idiot? It’s the truth!
My aim was to tip you off that the phrase doesn't help you, but I'll answer your Q.
Well it depends on the individual claiming it, but I would say why is "it's not a choice" your argument when discussing why you've focused on your gender as the loudest part of your identity? The questions isn't your gender identity so much as why your identity is your gender. That part is a choice no matter what else.
Are you serious? Fucking think. Literally almost everything in the world is affected by gender, and there is pressure to conform to gender norms EVERYWHERE. Transgenderism is INCREDIBLY dibilitating and the only treatment is acceptance of their internal gender. The world is constantly attacking and fighting against transgender people, including malaveolent assholes like Uncle, and you. We are fighting to be treated as who we are. And for some reason, many people use the excuse that trans people are just choosing to act the way they do as a justification for giving them absolutely no respect or consideration, or just being straight up abusive towards them.
This has been explained so many times and is so obviously that I can only assume you just don’t give a shit and refuse to ever accept trans people. I just wish people like you could be honest about preferring to wallow in your ignorance
Every part of your life is affected by your height as well. It's rarely that height is a basis of identity. I knew a kid whose body could not retain salt. If he went more than so many hours without his medication or a bunch of salt nearby, he would die or at the best fall into a deep coma. This shaped every part of his life. It wasn't his identity though.
I'm not attacking your gender identity or making you conform to a gender. I'm telling you that everyone expects more out of each other than a gender identity. So when we run across someone whose main topic of discussion is gender identity, we're like "what the fuck yo?" This would apply to any guy who constantly reminds you how male he is. That's sort of the joke with a character like Austin Powers and his male symbol sex sign necklace.
That's a sort of norm, but not an oppressive norm. It's about encouraging people to be fully realized.
And I’m trying to tell you that for transgender people, gender norms are incredibly oppressive and damaging to the psyche. You are working very hard to believe this isn’t the case.
So what? Destroy anything resembling a gender norm? That's not happening.
I find it impossible to have a consistent conversation with you. I am talking about making most of your identity about one aspect of yourself and then shoving that upon others. Instead, every time you respond, it feels like a different conversation. Like your frantically fighting phantom threats.
Maybe it’s bcause you will use any justification possible to explain why transgender people should just get over it.
But we’re almost getting somewhere. OK so you believe that we will never be free of gender norms ever. Okay.
Well I’ll tell you that we will NEVER be free of gender dysphoria. Until we come up with a way to completely and convincingly change a person’s biology to match their gender, we have two options:
1. Fight for acceptance of trans identity and hope that one day non-cis people will be accepted enough to actually live comfortable healthy lives.
2. Bury your head in the sand, telling trans people to just move on and get over it, something they literally cannot do, while they are murdered, beaten, abused, denied jobs, and verbally harassed just for being themselves.
So which is it gonna be etiolate?
